CASA Stories

Passaic County CASA's COVID-19 Response, Policies, and Procedures

The novel coronavirus (COVID-19) outbreak has continued to evolve since we first heard about it in the past few weeks.  Our primary concern is always for the well being of the children, families, volunteers, and staff who are associated with Passaic County CASA.

While this is a time of uncertainty and fear for all of us, it’s likely that our children in foster care are suffering the most. Many of these children have experienced severe trauma and are currently separated from their loved ones. Over the next few days, weeks, and months, we will be particularly mindful of not compounding those traumas by abandoning our children when they need us the most. We promise to do our best to continue our advocacy, while also ensuring the safety of Passaic County CASA staff and volunteers.

There have been new guidelines about how we interact socially including the use of social distancing, minimizing participation in large gatherings, and changes in business operations. We continue to closely follow the evolution of COVID–19 and its potential impact on the operations of Passaic County CASA and the child welfare system. As things evolve, our operations may continue to change, so we appreciate your flexibility. As of Friday, March 13:

  • Out of an abundance of caution, we have decided to cease in-person home visits for the rest of March. It is our hope that limiting in-person contact will protect our volunteers, our families, and the community at large. In order to continue our advocacy, we are requesting that each volunteer make a "virtual visit" using the most appropriate technology for the situation. Suggested platforms are Facetime calls, Skype, Google Duo, or Whatsapp.

  • All hearings scheduled for March 16 & 17 have been adjourned. Beyond that, hearings will be held telephonically. CASA volunteers will be contacted by supervisors with further information if you have an upcoming hearing.

  • All CASA court reports are still due two weeks prior to the scheduled court hearing and it is vital that all Optima contact logs be entered in real-time. With in-person visits temporarily halted, it’s even more important than ever for volunteers to gather up-to-date, in-depth information and documentations to round out in their court reports.

  • All Passaic County CASA office operations will continue as normal, however in a remote set up. The office is not open for visitors and all staff are remote. All meetings and interviews will be held remotely (conference call or webinar). Staff can be reached directly by email, cell phone or by leaving a message at the office for a return call.

  • For this reason, we are postponing the March 19 volunteer in-service training. We are exploring additional methods of delivering remote training via webinar. Please stay tuned for more details. 

  • If you have an urgent need to requires an in-person visit to the CASA office, please call before you plan to visit to determine if your needs can be accommodated as we will have extremely limited staff onsite.  

  • We will continue to recruit volunteers, hold information sessions, and facilitate initial volunteer training because, to put it frankly, child abuse and neglect do not take a day off. Passaic County CASA staff is preparing to do much of the above online through video conferencing and webinars.

  • Additional online and virtual networking and training opportunities will be shared shortly for all active CASA volunteers to support you in this unprecedented time.

We encourage all of our volunteers, staff, and supporters to stay informed and protect themselves and others. Please continue to visit this page for updates.

Be safe and be well,

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Lend a hand, not a hand-me-down

By Erica Fischer-Kaslander
Executive Director

(Originally posted March 2020, edited June 2021)

Maybe some foster care agencies need luggage, but most of the time, your hand-me downs are not what will truly help.

If I had a dollar for every time I have seen a very well-meaning person share the embedded Facebook post, Passaic County CASA would be all set for our fundraising goals for the year…and it’s only halfway through the year. Throughout the child welfare world, this post has been making the rounds for quite a while with resounding choruses from foster care agency staff, child welfare caseworkers, CASA staff, and even some judges chiming in with comments such as “We need to turn this into a positive somehow” and “I wish we could educate people about the system more.”

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In response to this viral post, which is acquiring more frequent flyer miles across the virtual sky than we can dream of (and anyone who knows me knows how much I love my frequent flier miles!), so we have decided to address it head on.

People have been contacting our office quite frequently, asking “Do kids really pack their belongings into garbage bags?” and “Is this really a need?” These are semi-complicated questions because every situation varies drastically, but for all practical purposes: yes, kids entering foster care do still put their belongings in garbage bags when other options aren’t available, but no, that doesn’t mean that we want your old suitcases. Keep reading though, about how you CAN help a child.

CASA has and will continue to work in coordination with the Division of Child Protection and Permanency to ensure that other options, such as duffle bags and large storage options similar to “Ikea”bags, are available to caseworkers to use during removals. However, in emergency situations, those bags aren’t always at hand.  Used suitcases are never the answer though.

1.     They are bulky to store both before and after use for both CASA and DCP&P.

2.       A child is not typically given the luxury of much storage space in the placement facility, foster/resource home, group home, or where they will be placed after they are removed from home.  A duffle bag or other lightweight bag could be shoved under a bed or in a drawer until it is needed, while a suitcase typically cannot.

3.      Caseworkers need something to keep “at the ready” in the trunk of their car for emergency removals, or when moving a child from one foster home to another. Duffle bags are generally the best answer to quickly and easily move a child. Sometimes in an emergency removal, youth still end up packing belongings in garbage bags, but there’s no amount of donated suitcases that will change that.

Dignity is the main reason a trash bag should not be used to move a child’s belongings. Is your 20 year-old ripped and/or stained luggage really any more dignified than a black plastic bag?

Our organizational philosophy revolves around providing normalcy to children in the child welfare system. Normalcy means offering experiences and a lifestyle that is as close as possible to a “normal” life outside of the foster care system; normalcy is not allowing foster care to define a child’s life and opportunities. There are many ways we work to address this, but one material way is the “Open Door Store.” It is our hope and dream that in the future, we will have space for a permanent location, but currently the Open Door Store operates as a “Pop Up Shop” several times a year and by request. The Open Door Store provides quality, new clothing, shoes, coats, winter gear, school supplies, and holiday treats for youth to select for themselves both in person and through submitted “wish lists”. Occasionally, we get extra special donations of items in the store such as outdoor summer toys, Halloween costumes, and sporting goods which are especially exciting to see our children receive. Our youth are empowered to shop, without a financial burden, and allowed to select items of their own style, that fit them appropriately, and meet their needs.

In conversation around the office, we’ve collected some ideas of more productive ways that you can help youth in foster care beyond a one-time donation of your used suitcase:

  • Collect donations of reusable grocery bags, large blue/yellow “Ikea” type bags and foldable laundry totes.

  • Increase awareness through social media and follow organizations such as CASA on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and LinkedIn

  • Contribute to the Play Fund to support CASA kids who can’t pay for extracurricular activities, school clubs, sports, and music lessons by making a financial donation.

  • Become a CASA Community Ambassador

  • Offer to be a support to a foster parent in your neighborhood

  • Become a foster parent in New Jersey (Click here for more information)

  • Offer personal assistance to children in foster care in your area of expertise (i.e. resume help, tutoring, entrepreneurship, mentorship, etc.)

  • Become a CASA and advocate for a child’s best interest in court

  • Donate more than just the duffle bag, but a “First night bag” to help a child get settled in their new placement

  • In addition to donating duffle bags, consider contributing items and financial support to the “Open Door Store” pop up shops (More information here and here)

  • Attend one of our community education workshops to become more trauma informed and aware of the challenges that young people in foster care are experiencing in our communities every day!

We sincerely believe that everyone can do something. Currently, our youngest donor is age 5 and raised $37 at his lemonade stand last summer to support youth in foster care while our oldest CASA Ambassador volunteer will turn 88 this year.  She out-wrapped me (by far) this past holiday season during our holiday gift wrapping days. If you do nothing else after reading this, please share a conversation with someone about what you’ve learned regarding youth in foster care and inspire them to also support youth.  You are part of the solution to giving each of our youth a hand up.

The meaning behind the baskets 

By Pamela Saunders
Office And Finance Coordinator

It’s that time of year again!  Tricky Tray!  One of CASA’s biggest fundraisers!

For CASA staff and volunteers, Tricky Tray is a long day…week…month of work getting donations and creating beautiful baskets so our devoted Tricky Tray attendees will be wowed year after year. We’ve learned that people who “tricky tray” take this event very seriously.  They drop their tickets in prize buckets with finesse and gusto.  Then they delicately and precisely organize the ticket stubs before settling in for a night of hundreds of numbers being called for hours. Each attendee hopes and prays that he or she will be victorious, with numerous prizes in hand.

But is our Tricky Tray really just about people winning stuff?  Not even close. 

For those of you who wonder how and why this event exists, I will tell you.  Tricky Tray is a collaborative effort headed by one woman who has boundless energy and love for CASA and our CASA kids. It’s a network of staff, volunteers, community organizations, and local businesses working together and giving generously to raise money for children who need a voice in the world of foster care.  Yes, Tricky Tray is “chaos”.  It’s a chance to win hundreds of prizes, by hundreds of people, buying hundreds of tickets. The night is filled with excited screams and woeful moans of prizes won and lost.

But none of this craziness comes close to the “chaos” that children in foster care experience.  Screams and moans mean something different in their world and a “chance” at a safe and permanent home is the prize they hope to win.  Tricky Tray is really about people coming together to celebrate a “chance” to change the life of a child.  Hope is not only for raffles but for the future of children. 

Everyone loves Tricky Tray night.  It’s about gathering together with friends and coworkers for a fun evening and I’m always happy to see my own friends and family enjoying the evening we worked so hard to put together.  They are wowed by the crowd, the prizes, and the food, and are amazed by how it all comes together.  But I and a select few truly know the backend of Tricky Tray.  We know of the commitment to helping children by our Tricky Tray crew, the generosity of community businesses who donate and the results that one night of fun can have in helping kids in crisis reach a permanent, safe and loving home by funding the work that CASA does by providing a child an advocate who is in their corner and by their side.

Thank you to everyone who contributes time, talent, sweat, and energy to making our Tricky Tray possible.  Thank you to the volunteers who solicit donations, Andrea Nieves and her Tricky Tray fairies who create our gorgeous baskets, staff who set up and work the event, and our attendees who support us and who may not realize exactly what this fun crazy evening is really all about.  

See you all on June 1!

Why Hair Matters

By Sarah Cane-During,
Senior Advocacy Supervisor

“Why do some parents care about hair so much? What is the big deal about hair? Why does hair even matter?”

Questions like this are common among foster parents and CASAs alike, particularly those who are white.  For the most part, black parents are well-aware of why hair matters.

A quick google search on the topic of black hair care and adoption or fostering will reveal a wealth of blog posts, articles, interviews, YouTube videos, opinion pieces, and Facebook groups that detail the importance of hair in the black community. It seems like overkill to write another piece like that here, so I will link to a few of those pieces below. What I will note here, however, is that caring for a child’s hair, especially a black child’s hair, is indisputably an important part of parenting and fostering. You wouldn’t neglect to put sunscreen on a fair skinned child, would you? Or neglect to cut their finger nails? Or neglect to wash their hair? When it comes to parenting a black child, engaging in appropriate hair care is as essential as washing the hair of a white child on a regular basis.

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Making sure that a black child’s hair fits in with cultural norms means ensuring that it is moisturized, put in a protective style, and/or shaped up. This shows respect for that child’s culture, their family, and their own person. Neglecting to follow the numerous tips online for white parents parenting black children shows a lack of respect for that child’s culture, family, and person.

Whether you are a CASA volunteer, foster parent, child welfare worker, or interact with children in another capacity, it essential that we push back against the negative narrative that hair doesn’t matter. How can we do that?

Educate yourself! Read online about the importance of black hair care. Below there are a number of linked articles about this topic

If you are a CASA and you hear a foster parent expressing confusion about how to handle hair, help him/her out!

o   Google local salons and give them those numbers.

o   Print out some online tips and articles.

o   Send them links to YouTube videos.

o   Suggest that they join the many Facebook groups that discuss this topic: Hair to <3, and Multiracial Families Discuss is the one I belong to, but I know there are more!

·Always reinforce with foster parents that hair care is an important part of care taking.

o   Remind them it shows respect to the biological parents to have the child’s hair “done” (braided, in twists, shaped up, etc.) in an appropriate style.

o   Remind them it shows the child that you care about them fitting in and feeling good about themselves.

o   Remind them it will help keep the child’s hair healthy!

·Show support for effort! What works might require some effort on the part of the foster parent: trying different products, experimenting with styles to see which ones last long (a child with long hair should be styled in such a way that it is not being redone frequently, protective styles prevent breakage), finding salons that will work with the child’s attention span, determining tricks to getting the child to sit still, etc. That effort is worth it! Express your support for this effort! Comment on new braided styles and praise them!

Notice if the child’s hair looks unkempt and, if the foster parent is a white parent caring for a black child, offer assistance in this area. Do not be afraid to speak up about it in a caring way. The biological parents will notice, peers will notice, and the DCP&P caseworker will often notice. Give the foster parent a safe space to ask for assistance from you. If you don’t feel comfortable giving further tips, call us at the office and we will find a way to provide help and support to the foster parents in this area.

Above all, we are here for the best interests of our CASA children. And it IS in their best interests to have their culture uplifted and respected. Part of that is hair care! 

For further reading see the following:
https://adoption.com/african-american-hair-care-unexpected-adoption-hurdle/
 

https://adoption.com/more-than-just-hair-understanding-significance-of-african-american-haircare 

https://www.adoptivefamilies.com/transracial-adoption/hair-care-african-american-boys/ 

https://nataliekristeen.com/blog/raising-kids-of-color-good-hair-care-is-absolutely-necessary

Volunteer Spotlight: Gabrielle Montalvo

By Juliana Oelkers

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Fresh out of college in 2017, Gabi Montalvo did not have much volunteer experience.  That year, she was primarily focused on working full time and attending open houses for grad school.  

Luckily for both CASA and Gabi, it was during one of those open houses that she learned about volunteering at Passaic County CASA. Three years later, and Gabi is now February’s CASA Volunteer of the Month.

With a degree in psychology, Gabi was always interested in child welfare. After attending a CASA volunteer information session, she realized being a CASA would allow her to take on a role within that field and advocate on behalf of children in the child welfare system. 

Ever since becoming a volunteer in 2018, Gabi has advocated for four children of all different ages and backgrounds.

“You’re never really prepared for what you might read in a case file,” Gabi said.  

But what makes it all worth it to her is seeing the progress that the kids make over time.  

Her first case involved a toddler who wore a helmet due to developmental problems. Gabi visited him a few times every month and with each visit, she witnessed slow but steady improvements in his health.  

“One of the most memorable experiences as a CASA was finally seeing him with his helmet off for the first time,” Gabi said.

Making progress with her CASA kids did not always come so easily, though. The teenage girl from Gabi’s second case was closed off at first. One of the things that Gabi used to her advantage was her age. Gabi feels that being younger than the typical CASA volunteer made it easier for her to connect with the girl.  

“I was looked at as sort of an equal and I think that’s what kind of helped with the teen. I can relate to Instagram and Snapchat and even help with homework,” Gabi said.

When that case closed and Gabi’s teen was reunified with her mom, the most rewarding part for Gabi was seeing that they were both working hard to be able to maintain their relationship and how happy her CASA teen was. 

“I love really seeing the progress that can happen when all parties work together because it benefits the kids at the end of the day.” 

Now, Gabi has been assigned to her third case with two little girls living with their grandparents.

To her, the CASA role is so rewarding because talking with her kids, learning how they feel, and seeing what they need is the best part of the job. 

“As CASAs...it's fulfilling to be able to tell that to the judge.” 

Although she was inexperienced at the start, Gabi now views volunteering with CASA as a hugely meaningful part of her life.  

When she’s not busy visiting her CASA children or working, Gabi loves to travel to Mexico, the Dominican Republic, and California. She also enjoys trying out new restaurants in her neighborhood, or having a girls’ night with friends.